I’ve never been overweight.. I’ll be honest. Sure I’ve had my periods of life where I’ve gained a few pounds here and there, but never enough to consider myself to be overweight. I can’t relate to those that have been. I don’t know what they struggle with, what life is like, or how they feel from a physical standpoint.
I do however know what it’s like to be fit. I’ve had the six pack, the low body fat, the whole nine yards. With that, I also got: People staring, whispers, “eww that’s gross” “I don’t ever want to look like that” “She’s on steroids” “She looks like a man” blah blah blah. I was ridiculed, torn down, “fit shamed.” Trust me, I’m sure some of you will probably think to yourself some of these things when you see my pic below.
I never thought about it really until the coach I was working with posted some of my progress pictures on his Facebook page with 10,000 fans. Here’s the pic that changed my whole perspective:
Yep that’s me. Man when that picture hit social media, all hell broke loose. I was literally in shock at all the negative comments that followed it. Seriously brutal comments. It was hard to see people tear me down so much and make accusations that I knew were untrue. After reading those comments, I almost quit. I was allowing the comments of others to take over. I was allowing other people to determine how I should or shouldn’t look.
I then took a step back and asked myself a question. “Who are you trying to please?.” It definitely wasn’t the trolls and the asshats of the internet. Competing was always something I wanted to do, I had worked so hard to get to that point, and I had always wanted to do it for me. I wanted to prove to myself that I could commit 100%, put in the work, and achieve the goal. I did not once, but twice. After my first show and that moment on stage, I no longer gave a shit about what others had to say. I still got comments of course, and still do. I just laugh about it now. When other people have insecurities about themselves, that’s when they tear others apart.
I soon came to realize that regardless of what you look like, how you act, and who you are, people will hate you, talk about you, and be assholes no matter what end of the spectrum you’re on. That’s where you need to decide that you aren’t going to be one of those people.
If you’re judging others based on their outside appearance, I assume that you have some insecurities about yourself. There is no right way or wrong way to “look.” Who decides what is considered beautiful, sexy, ugly, and gross? Whos standards are we trying to live up to? If you think you have to look a certain way to please anyone in this world, trust me, they aren’t worth your time. Be who you want to be, look how you want to look and feel good about it.
If you feel confident and comfortable with a few extra pounds, rock it. If you truly want a ripped body, get it. Do it because you want to do it, not because you’re trying to satisfy anyone.
Overweight people are stared at, whispered about, torn down, ridiculed, and laughed at.
Fit people are stared at, whispered about, torn down, ridiculed, and laughed at.
Whether you’re fit, skinny, short, tall, underweight, overweight, we go through the same struggles regardless of what side of the fence you’re on from an emotional stand point. Did you ever think about it that way? I’ve never been overweight, but I’ve been fit, and I think we have a lot more in common than you realize.
Screw what others think. Don’t judge. Be kind. Help people that need it. Stop fat shaming, fit shaming, people shaming. Pay someone a compliment today. Strive to be healthy, happy, and comfortable in your own skin.